There is a lot of news recently coming from the NHL and it is not about who will win the Stanley Cup. What began as a story about former Toronto Maple Leafs head coach Mike Babcock embarrassing then rookie Mitch Marner, has now arguably changed to how we see the NHL locker room. That is, questioning the continuation of “what happens in the room stay in the room” in hockey culture.
I won’t go into much detail as many journalists have already covered the issue and will continue to. However, I do want to briefly present the situation with former Calgary Flames head coach, Bill Peters.
Essentially, hockey player Akim Aliu tweeted that his then coach, Bill Peters, targeted him with racial slurs back in 2009. This accusation was backed by multiple players and Peters himself issued an apology on the incident. It is worth noting that Aliu still intends to pursue legal action against the Flames coach for discrimination. Currently, Peters has stepped down from his duties as announced on Nov. 29.
Now, I don’t want to diminish at all what Aliu experienced. Using words that have an ugly meaning towards someone, and holding them back based on a prejudice, is completely wrong. We as a society have done a great job in not tolerating any action that resembles this and should continue to do so.
However, I do wish to address a key element that I find has been missing from these types of situations. While today we can routinely identify the wrongs, there is a crucial void in them that is vital to many different faiths; with which I will emphasize the Christian perspective.
The act of forgiveness.
Do we ever see instances in public, such as the use of harsh language towards another, where an individual forgives the other? Do we, as a society, forgive an individual for their faults regardless if it was recent or in the past? I don’t see it.
As a practicing Catholic – but regardless of any other faith or not – it could be argued that forgiveness is the hardest thing to choose. When someone offends or even hurts you, it’s only natural to feel resentment and bitterness towards them. And honestly, I don’t blame people for feeling that way.
For example, if I was in Aliu’s shoes, I would surely be affected by it. I can only try to imagine what it would be like, but I cannot fully understand since I have not experienced this type of discrimination. It must be a complex range of anger, sadness, fear, and so much more. But just because something is difficult, it does not mean we should avoid it. As Jesus Himself said, “(T)he gate is narrow and the road is hard that leads to life, and there are few who find it” (Matthew 7: 14).
Regardless, the act of forgiveness is something that we are all called to. Since God is ever so merciful and repeatedly forgives we, who constantly turn away from Him, we also should forgive those who wrong us.
Forgiveness is choosing peace instead of dwelling on pain. By not forgiving, we are holding bitterness towards our neighbour. I have often heard it to be described as drinking poison and hoping it hurts the other person. All this does is keep us in a state of enragement and can lead to hate towards our brethren.
Am I saying that forgiveness is easy to choose? Of course not. In fact, I’ll be the first to say that choosing to forgive someone who hurts you is the last thing you might wish to do. But we know, whether it’s deep down or not, that it’s something we should do.
It’s also very possible.
The example we routinely look at is the passion of Jesus Christ, and for good reason. If anyone deserved to be angry, it was definitely Jesus. Even though He committed no crime, He was sentenced to death, scourged and tortured, mocked and spat on, and ultimately crucified. Which by the way, crucifixion was considered one of the worst ways to die in the Roman Empire during this time period.
What was Jesus’ answer to all of this? He didn’t curse his persecutors nor condemn them, but cried out, “Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing” (Luke 23:34).
